How to Listen

I enjoyed and found Oscar Trimboli’s first book “Deep Listening” extremely valuable, and I have been a fan of his work for several years. As soon as “How to Listen” was published I ordered my copy. So glad I did! Mr. Trimboli reminds the reader that there may be training on how to be a great speaker, but few have EVER been exposed to or learned how to be a great listener. This book provides the much-needed specifics as well as tips and tools so the reader can learn how and become a great and “deep” listener. Highlights related to this 5-Star Review: • Each chapter concludes with a “How to Listen this Week” with specific suggestions on how to apply the skills, tips, and ideas from the chapter. Admittedly, I wanted to read the book more quickly, but I would strongly encourage readers to read the chapter and then apply the suggestions from “How to Listen This Week.” It takes deliberate practice! • What impressed me when I read his first book is his model of the five (5) levels of listening that differ from other models: Listening to and for: yourself (this is missed in most if not all models), content, context, unsaid, and meaning. Each chapter explore the specific level in detail providing the valuable tips needed to develop the skills at each level. • Content is based on research that Mr. Trimboli conducted so the book is based on data and not just his opinion. • The use of “real life” examples often based on interviews he conducted and guests on his podcasts. I have listened to many of these but content in the book gleaned from the podcasts is clear and concise (and so helpful). • Big ideas on a separate page: Throughout the book “big ideas” are presented separately on individual pages. For example, on one page there is only: “How well do you notice whether you listen for similarities or for differences? (p. 61) Before moving to the corporate world, I spent 25 years as a consulting and clinical psychologist. How many problems and “issues” experienced in relationships are associated with the lack of listening skills? In the corporate/business world, how many problems stem from deep listening or listening in general not being present? This is one of those books that I wish had existed years ago! Who will benefit from reading How to Listen: Discover the Hidden Key to Better Communication? Leaders, followers, executive coaches, mental health professionals, medical professions, those in relationship, … actually I believe anybody, and everybody will benefit from reading and more importantly applying/practicing the straightforward tips, skills, and ideas presented. Ed Nottingham, PhD, PCC Consulting & Clinical Psychologist Author, "It’s Not as Bad as It Seems: A Thinking Straight Approach to Happiness"

Some books remind you of what you already know. Others hold up a mirror and show you what you’ve been missing. Oscar Trimboli’s How to Listen did both. I went in thinking, “I’m a professional coach. Listening is what I DO.” But this book reminded me that hearing words and truly listening are not the same thing. This book helps you to take “active listening” beyond the usual tips about nodding and paraphrasing. He pushes you to hear what isn’t said—the hesitations, the energy shifts, the unasked questions. That’s where the real conversation lives. One line that stuck with me: listening isn’t just a skill, it’s a gift. Not in the “special talent” sense, but in the “you’re giving someone space to be heard” sense. And like any gift, it only matters if it’s freely given—without agenda, without rushing to fix, without making it about you. I now use that frequently in my coaching with C-suite executives to show them the value of actually Listening. For leaders, coaches, and anyone who works with other humans, this book isn’t to be considered optional reading in my view. It’s the kind of guide that makes you realize how much more there is to learn, no matter how “good” you think you are at listening. Be willing to look at where you can learn, grow, and help others to flourish by just Listening. It left me with one big question: If I treated every conversation like it could win an award, would I listen like a judge or a fan? That was an interesting insight that I still don’t have a solid handle on, but I’m working on it.

Highly recommended for anyone who wants to be a better human being, not just a human doing. Oscar’s style is easy to read and understand, and more importantly, he provides simple, straightforward steps to take, over the course of a few weeks, to put what we learn into action. Oscar’s How to Listen takes active listening to a whole new level by exploring more of what’s not said, listening for meaning, while starting with ourselves. We have to bring ourselves into a state of readiness to listen…deeply. This book can be read quickly, or over the course of a few weeks, giving time to implement some of Oscar’s ideas. I also bought this book for a team with whom I was working, to strengthen their understanding of one another and connect them more deeply. Highlights for me: - Connecting listening to breathing - Paying attention and giving attention - Ties to Brene Brown’s work - US Airways flight 1549, January 15, 2009 - Three is half of eight Oscar is an engaging storyteller, which makes the learning so much better. I see coming back to this book on a regular basis. If you ever feel that you’re missing something in your communication with others, then this book is for you.

We all THINK we listen...or have good excuses when we don't listen well. Oscar Trimboli brilliantly identifies why it's hard to listen, why it's so important to listen better, and HOW we can train ourselves to listen more intently. While the book is based on his research, it is NOT an academic treatise but a practical guide to they physiology and psychology behind listening. If you are a business leader, family member, friend, community member....okay, if you are anyone...you owe it to yourself and those around you to read "How to Listen" and apply what you learn.

Very insightful and worth the work of exercises at each chapters end. I recommend this to anyone who is serious in learning how to be a true listener. Thanks so much.

This book broke down some basics I just didn’t get for some reason. It helped me be more intentional. I still think about this book and what I learned in it months later

Listening is a skill we take for granted. This book demonstrates 5 different levels of focus that helps you prepare to listen, know what to listen for, and enable the speaker to share their meaning. My sales team read this book and it helped increase performance by focusing on the listening skills explained in this book.

We learn a lot in life and school and never about listening. This book has been a game changer in my sales life and the podcast is really helping me more. Worth all the money

Amazing book for those who want to be a better listener. It can help in building your personality or even you can use these things in professional life.

How to Listen is an absolute must-read if you want to get the most out of your relationships at work and at home, and make your meetings and projects work better. It sounds simple but it’s actually really hard to be a great listener, and How to Listen breaks it down in easy to understand theory that reads easily and it practical to use. This isn’t a one-and-done book, it’s a resource that you’ll come back to time and time again if you are committed to the lifelong pursuit of being a good listener. A journey worthy of the effort!!

… and it isn’t about perfection, just focusing on being better than your last interaction! I loved this book on so many levels, in particular focusing on what is unsaid. A skill that so many think they have, but this book give practical examples of how we can all do better. Listen and silence share the same letters - if you’re uncomfortable with silence, you’ll learn so much about its power through this book. I would highly recommend this for both professional and personal development. There is something for all walks of life! To take your learning further, join Oscar’s Podcast - Deep listening - Impact beyond words, to remain connected and growing in your learning. Thank you Oscar for sharing this with the world!

Adquiri recentemente 2 livros. Ambos impressos pela Amazon. Fraquissima qualidade do "papel" e fraca qualidade de impressão das páginas. Livros: Resilient e How to Listen.

Oscar Trimboli’s How to Listen is a thoughtful, impactful and practical book that changes how you show up in conversation. As a coach and leadership facilitator, I found it deeply aligned with my work. We now use it as a recommended text in our Advanced Coaching Strategies program at CoachWorks Academy because listening is so core to being an effective coach and leader. One idea that stayed with me is Oscar’s reminder that we listen much faster than people speak. That gap creates all kinds of temptations—anticipating, judging, interrupting, or trying to fix—often before the other person has fully expressed what they mean. His work invites a different discipline: to notice those impulses and stay with the speaker a little longer. What resonated most is his focus on presence and attention. Listening is not passive. It is an active choice to create space. And when we create that space, people think more clearly, express themselves more fully, and often arrive at insights they couldn’t reach alone. This book reinforces something essential: we can’t truly see people if we’re not first willing to listen well. This is a book I’ll continue to recommend and return to in my own practice.