What to Do When It's Not Fair

This workbook has been amazing for my 9yo daughter! Today at bedtime she called out from the bedroom for me to bring her a red and blue crayon for an activity and said that the workbook has really been helping her. She has extremely bad jealously of her older sister that has caused a lot of tension in their relationship since she was little. I’ve been constantly breaking up or mediating arguments between them and decided to try a book as she’s been receptive to learning emotional coping skills this way. This week my older daughter came home from her dad’s house (and a spring break vacation) and we didn’t have a signal fight between the girls! I know it’s not going to fix everything, but it’s giving my daughter a great toolset to use. These feelings are hard for adults to deal with, so I’m grateful to have something to help her with.

Love the analogies and practical strategies in all the books in this series. I recommend to other parents on a regular basis.

My pediatrician recommended these books as an alternative that is cheaper than therapy. He said that they tend to work for parents and kids. They do! It is hard work, but making changes in behavior can't be easy. This series provides effective language and exercises to teach kids life skills that can help them to live happy lives. I love all of them, especially the one called "What to do when you worry too much". Great books. I can't praise them enough. I wish that I had this series with my first 3 kids. but I'm so grateful that I found them for my youngest child.

Only wish it were colored pages through out. Even trying to pass it off as a "coloring book" to my clients and own child did not make them more interested in it. We are competing with HD TV these days so this is tough to keep kids interest in workbooks. However content wise, creativity wise and art wise just unbeatable. This would be a much better seller if more concrete hands on pirate themed actiivities that drove the point home were included. I had trouble getting kids with ADHD to do more than 2 pages UNLESS I made us pretend to be pirates and throw cannonballs (tennis balls- ouch- it was all i had on hand) at each other. To elevate this to money making level, it BEGS for hands on activities. Glad I bought it, no regrets as there are no other books out there to teach on this topic and peeps, i honestly can't relate to the envy, jealousy and entitlement I see in a lot of kids these days.

Daughter loves

Best set of books to give younger children applicable coping skills. The books have short easy to read chapters. The tips on dealing with different issues are age appropriate and easy to learn. I would say this set of books is best suited for 2nd-6th graders based on the reading level. Although the skills could be used by any age. I purchased a couple different titles. I wouldn't mind owning the entire series, just to keep as reference books.

My 9 year old loves this series. I have almost all of them. They are great for her to go to on any day this is an issue and I think they have helped her cope better.

This book is an excellent resource to help a child work through and better understand envy and jealousy. I love the way it breaks it down and makes understandable steps. This is not a book I would hand to a child and expect them to read, but I do think it is an excellent resource for parents and counselors to use with a child in steps. I love all of the "What to do When" series.

I am using this book for an autistic grown-up, with a much younger emotional age. The pirate themed approach helps readers to stop honing in - like through a telescope - on the object of their envy. My favourite page features a boy who envies his best friend's new basketball. The words remind the reader that the boy already has a basketball jersey, a good old basketball, a basketball backboard...and a BEST FRIEND! It reminds the reader that envy interferes with our focus. It means our telescope looks only at what we DON'T have, that we crave, and this can lead to anger and unkind behaviour. The texts encourages the reader to ask themselves, 'Am I being a pirate?' and to put down their telescope so they can focus on what they DO already have. Importantly, the objects of envy are not only objects! The book uses examples of special attention, new toys, friends going to play at someone else's house etc. The whole book is relevant, poignant, gentle, effective and a wonderful relief to children (and older SEN readers) who suffer from their own envy - and those around them who suffer from it too!

I love this book series. Very parent friendly and easy to use at home or in the clinic (OT). For older kids that find the concepts easier, it's important to pace them as you guide them through the book for meaningful reflection of the topics.

Good info on the child's level

We're going through the book, one chapter a day and it's been great till now, except my children won't admit how envious they can be.. but that's the point of buying the book. It's written in a very simple way so it's easy to understand and I hope that by the end of the book they'll be able to understand their feelings and will know how to cope with them in a better way.

Ds (8yo) does not like reading. But picks up this book. Says it's very good, he understands everything and that it helps him. He even took it to the car to read on the way to school.