The Assertiveness Workbook: How to Express Your Ideas and Stand Up for Yourself at Work and in Relationships

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This book has helped to improve my assertiveness. The paper it is printed on is very good quality and value for money. There was good communication between me and the seller and it arrived on time as well.

Great book very insightful but bad quality from seller. Has writing in it and scruffy.

This is great book. Very practical and easy to understand. It talks about the different ways of interacting and it helps you to identify how you approach conflict. And you recognise how others work too. It's a very useful self help book and I recommend it highly. I borrowed it from the library initially but was so impressed I bought my own copy.

Great book, have recommended it to others and they have not been disappointed. It goes much further than other books that tackle the subject of assertiveness yet often miss the point. It focuses on self expression and looks at the beliefs that prevent us from doing do in a way that preserves the things we care about. Easy to read, simple to understand and it works.

I have been on various courses in my working life and assertiveness often comes up. We get a quick run down of "I have the right to say no... change my mind ... ask for more time" etc. This book, on the other hand is the first really thorough walk-thu of what skills you need to practice and how to use them. In my job as workplace counsellor, I recommend it regularly. People need assertiveness in the worplace, and nearly all of us could benefit from revisiting these ideas.

This book has some interesting points and makes the distinction of the different types of ways of approaching people and situations. Nice read and nice exercises to practise.

The author writes in a very down-to-earth way. The book a great practical guide for learning why I have behaved passively in the past and taught me better ways to approach life, people and situations. The techniques are simple but effective. I am very glad I found this book :)

Si tu problema es la falta de asertividad en tus relaciones personales y/o profesionales, este es tu libro. En el libro aparecen un sin fin de situaciones cotidianas, en las que la falta de asertividad, por miedo o temor a lo que piensen los demás o uno mismo, desemboca en un conflicto aún mayor. Se repasa poco a poco el proceso para atreverse a decir lo que uno piensa, desea o necesita, sin imponer y sin mandar. Incluye ejercicios prácticos. Muy bien redactado.

Book is as described

It was a gift, my friend loves it & is looking forward to working through it.

It is my experience that few people have strong communication skills -- are capable of gracefully disagreeing, giving opinions, asserting boundaries, confronting people. Most of us either go along with others, try to pacify, avoid confrontation and never say "No," (the passive style) or we boss others around, intimidate them, and force them to give in to "our way" (the aggressive style). There is also the passive-aggressive style which attacks indirectly in order not to take responsibility -- by forgetting, having "accidents," being late, or being slow in responding to a request agreed to. AND sometimes, hopefully more and more, we use the assertive style. The essence of assertiveness is assuming responsibility for your own behavior and acknowledging your thoughts and preferences honestly while also respecting the feelings and opinions of others. Paterson notes that each of these styles is used by all of us at one time or another; and we each have a style we use most. The book is an excellent handbook which will increase your awareness of yourself and others in all interactions. Further, the author guides you step by step into increasing your flexibility of responses. First, Paterson has assessments for determining which of these four styles you use most. He also explores how we learn these behaviors and when it is appropriate to use each. Beginning with the easiest situations in your own life, you start practicing the assertive style. One of my favorite exercises was called: A Walk in Town. The idea is to practice overcoming passivity by the way you walk. You use a favorite actor or dancer as a model of confidence. The best guide for me was: let your chest enter the room first, not your nose. Although the subtitle of the book emphasizes overcoming passivity, this book is also for those who are overly aggressive. Aggressive persons might be less likely to perceive a problem, but overuse of the aggressive style usually indicates a fear of being out of control and tends to keep us distant from others. This book is a fine resource for personal relationships, for work situations, or conflict management. It is readable, workable, and fun.

The Assertiveness Workbook by Randy Paterson is an exceptionally helpful, well written, engaging skill building book that I have read and re-read to encourage personal growth in assertive communication. How do we change ourselves to become respectful and effective in the dance of 'showing up' in conversations? This book with access to online videos and printable 'score cards' will engage you in a learning process you will not want to pass by.